Dreaming It Real: The Evolution of Your Goals
As I sit here, drinking my coffee (which I always find inspiring), I’m thinking about what I really want out of the next phase of my future. Each phase of our lives is like a section on a roller coaster, and each has several components.
• Change you are consciously striving to make every day
• Big Shift/opportunity
• Lessons/strengths you value and carry forward from the previous phase
As we go through the process of creating our lives, we experience times of major pushes, where we work towards a specific goal(s), and periods of short rest in between these push phases.
Rest is vital as it allows for a few things to happen:
• Conscious appreciation for what we have just accomplished
• Vital recuperation before the next phase
• Planning the next phase
If you’re in a period between phases, it’s a perfect time to pick a goal and plan to move towards it. Pick something that moves you, something that’s in your control. It will always come down to modifying your daily behaviors. If nothing is particularly drawing to you, revisit your values. What’s important to you? What is your ultimate goal? It doesn’t matter if nobody else can see it or if someone thinks it’s impossible. It sounds cliché, but follow your heart; it knows things about you nobody else does.
Break down this goal and choose which habits you would like to begin modifying to gain momentum. It doesn’t matter how fast you move forward, it only matters that you do. It’s all about energy, and staying in the rest phase too long creates stagnancy that can be harder to get out of. As I always say when I talk about this topic, it’s important that you set yourself up for success. Break things down until the change you’re making on a daily basis is easy enough to accomplish with little to no discomfort and resistance. That’s your starting point.
As you begin to make these changes, quite often the other aspect of this push phase will appear: a larger opportunity or big shift. This is life meeting you halfway and reminding you that you will always get out what you put in. You work hard, and life will reward you. Some people call this the law of attraction, others call it synchronicity. I’d like to challenge that by saying it’s, simply and powerfully, the impact we have to create our entire future and experience out of the energy we put forth in effort, intention, and pure passion.
You do need to be open to it. Remind yourself that the process, as hard as it may be at times, is meant to be fun. Adventurous is a more accurate word, in fact. Starting tuning into yourself and looking for opportunities that might show up a little more subtly than you’re used to. Great things come to those who work for them, but also to those who acknowledge that there’s more to life than what we can see immediately in front of us. Have more of a playful attitude than just “I’ll believe it when I see it”.
Look back on your life. Did you ever think you would be exactly where you are now? Were there big moments that changed your life forever, when you could have said no but you said yes instead? These quantum leap type of opportunities and changes will present themselves as you stay focused on your goals as long as you’re open to that potential.
As we grow through each of these phases, the lessons that we learn from prior phases and the strength that we gain all move forward with us. They help us catalyze the next big change, and are important to our overall growth and, honestly, the changing of the world for the better. Appreciate where you came from and what you have learned along the way that has made you a better, more well-rounded person.
Gratitude for the process moves mountains.
Sitting here with (what remains of) my Sunday morning coffee, I am contemplating my next phase which has already begun.
I am taking my body to a place physically I haven’t yet managed without a coach, even in my days of racing: peak condition. This has a few components driving me:
To heal my digestion. This has been in chaos since I was swallowed by stress three years ago. It’s time to rectify things by bringing them back into balance.
I want to bring my body into alignment with true health through purposeful, focused training. Even when I was racing, I was training ‘for the fun of it’. While that still meant waking at 3:45 to get on my bike, and heading to the gym for two hours later in the day, it wasn’t focused. I want to see how far I can progress with laser focus. I feel as I work towards this vision, I will shed the last of what holds me back in terms of belief and resistance, and ultimately change my perspective. I want to see what I’m capable of.
Which brings me to my big shift: changing the perspective of what I am capable of compared to where I am right now. I want to drop my limitations and move forward out of the place I currently exist. I know this will bring opportunity because that is exactly where I am placing my intentions.
Through this process we are changing ourselves. Not the core essence of who we are, not the fundamental structure, but our self expression and how we present ourselves to the world. This is the creative part, the fun part. This is how we are meant to experience life: living consciously.
I refuse to coach anybody on a topic I can’t step into fully. To change who you are, you need to become who you want to be. You absolutely cannot do that with one foot out, and anybody who says you can isn’t doing it right themselves. With the foundation of my business being that of a nutrition coach, I will not coach people while being unwilling to step into my best self in this or any other regard. I owe it to myself, and I owe it to every single one of my clients, current and future.
In short, it boils down to this:
decide who you want to become and what you want to bring into your life. It doesn’t has to be massive, and massive doesn’t have to be daunting.
Break it down into as many pieces as you need for it to take shape as a logical, doable process. Shine the light on as much of the path as you can, and trust that when you get to the end of what’s visible, there will be another light.
Start making things happen. When it becomes difficult, come back to why you want it in the first place. Your driving force. Use that to rise above all your doubts, fears, and resistance.
Stay open to the magic of the unexpected. As you move towards what you want most, life will present you with a little extra, but only if you look for it. Expect the unexpected.
I am writing this for you, but I am also writing this for myself when, a few weeks or months down the road, things get hard and I need to remind myself in the midst of difficulty that it truly is a beautiful process.
That was my last sip, and my thoughts are now on paper.
Happy Sunday, my friends.